Hi all - need a little advice. I sold an expensive item ($4000) on one of the Reddit exchange subs (different account). The buyer wanted me to send it internationally (I'm in the US). I said no problem, but he didn't want the regular PayPal invoice and instead could only use a "Request Money" link. Seems weird, but okay. As a side note, I'm not sure why there are so many options for requesting money on PayPal.
So I sent him the request and he paid it. The transaction shows as complete, and the money is in my PayPal balance (I have not transferred it to my bank). I looked at his shipping address, and it's not in the country he said - it's in a different country. I know PayPal seller protection is void if I send it to another address, and I'm also aware that's a common scam: the buyer claims a loss, and since you sent it to a different address, you're at fault and have to refund the money.
So I told him that and said he could either update his address or I could refund the money. He says he can't update it from the country he's in - he lives in that country and works in this country, etc. But I just told him I can't go against policy, so he has to work it out. After a bit, he says okay, just ship it to the address on file.
I had 80% convinced myself at this point that he was scamming me, but now I can't work out what his plan is if I just ship it to the address on his payment.
Any advice? Am I overthinking it? If this was a cheap item I wouldn't stress, but this was an item I was selling because I actually need the money. If it goes wrong, it would obviously be a big problem. But I also don't want to block and report this dude if he just wants his thing.
Thanks in advance!